Statistics show that most people want to make changes in their lives. Whether it’s being less stressed, losing weight or exercising more, most if not all of the changes we desire, are to feel better. The irony, is that few of us take action on these desires. Instead they haunt us and we carry the guilt of not taking action. Many experts call this lack of action “the pain of change.” The fear of the unknown can freeze us. I remember complaining about a job I had in college that I hated. I would constantly moan to my parents about how much I hated it. My father would always respond with “you obviously don’t hate it enough”, which would make me so angry! I would argue that he was wrong, refusing to see the wisdom in his words. Finally, one day, I couldn’t take it anymore and I quit. I felt so liberated. So happy! It dawned on me that my father had been right all along. I finally got to the point where the pain of not changing, overcame the pain of staying the same. This is a critical tipping point and many of us, especially as we get older, have a hard time ever getting there. We become accustomed to taking on the pain and just accepting it. We tell ourselves, we are too old, we’ve been this way for too long, etc. The irony is, that the change is still just as much within your grasp as it has ever been.
The first key element to making a change is allowing yourself to get totally fed up. Don’t push the pain away, but feel it. It is there for a reason. It is yourself telling yourself to take action. Listen to the signals. The second element is to let it grow enough to force you to take action. I have trained hundreds of people over the years. There is a clear difference between those who walk through the door having had an “I can’t take it anymore!” moment, and those who think that having a personal trainer is a magic bullet that will fix everything. Regardless of the resources you have access to, the most important factor in your success is your commitment to it. The secret to finding that commitment is truly embracing your pain and allowing it to be so bad that you have no choice but to move ahead.
In this case, the grass actually IS greener on the other side of the fence.